Love Is Blind

Love comes in many forms. As a child you are born to adults who hopefully love and care for you, sometimes unconditionally, sometimes not. Those early moments in your life start changing your response to love within yourself and your relationships going forward. For example, as a child if your mother was not as affectionate, you may consistently search for affectionate, thru your childhood and into your adulthood. These initial interactions that you do or do not have create the person you become, both good and bad. As you grow older, you find love such as "puppy" love and "first" love. These feelings are wrapped up in a nice little package but when unwrapped include curiosity, infatuation, lust, desire and things such as insecurities, doubts and undefined past hurts. The three later things are not wrapped up in a nice package, in fact unless you are well aware of self and the relationships around you, the later three don't show up until there is conflict. But love remains, right?

So what kind of love do we discover when we are older, in our thirties or maybe fourties? Does it depend if you are married young and flowing freely thru your middle age to growing old together? Does it mean you have found love, a multitude of times but now have found or are looking for another love? A deeper love. A more understood love. What kind of love is it that we find, after we have found out more about ourselves, we realize more of what we want and more of what we need.

As I sit here binge watching Love is Blind 3 and wondering how these people could get engaged in less the two weeks, say I love you and be happy in the end. Will they be successful, I have yet to find out as I continue my binge watch. I have been waiting almost 5 years for the person I want to spend the rest of my life with to catch up. To find the reason he can't live without me and yet he still has not made that choice. I question myself, what is wrong with me? Then I remember that it is not about me, but dang it is hard not to take the rejection that way. That is what it is rejection, rejection of moving forward, of finding me worthy enough to say, Yes, I want to marry this woman. I want to chase God with her. I want to live each moment together, experiencing the highs and lows. Being there for one another, holding each other when things get rough and building each other up when each of us finds success.

Back to the show. One woman said she want's be her man's cheerleader, another says she want's to be one half of another. The men, with abandonment decide they want a particular woman and they go for it. They pop the question before they even think about what is happening. Of course, this is an experiment and this is a show but in reality, there are men and women that do act that quickly. The emotions run rampant with their frontal cortex as they make the decision to ask the other for their hand, forever. Even with fear they ask and even with fear the other answers yes. They move forward and start figuring it out, together. In the end the show doesn't necessarily come to a conclusion whether or not love is blind. That is left up for the viewer to decide. Because what is love in the end? What do you need to make the decision to be with someone for the rest of your life?

Is love really blind ? I'm not sure but I know that love is something that happens between two people, why not take the chance to see what it means to follow love down the path to forever? What is so wrong with that?